Questions & Answers

New to the Metro Vancouver Non-Binary Collective? Forgotten something important? We’ve created a list of commonly asked questions that may just answer that thing that’s been bugging you. Click the links below to jump to a particular question or just scroll down to see everything.

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Group Related Questions

Q: What does ‘non-binary’ mean?

A: ‘Non-Binary’ is an umbrella term used by the LGBTQIA+ community to cover all gender identities that are not 100% ‘female’ or ‘male’. This umbrella includes countless variations of feelings, terms and expressions that people may identify with, ranging from feeling genderless, identifying as a gender other than male or female, regularly switching between feminine or masculine or expressing as gender non-conforming, just to name a few.

Since the term non-binary can cover so many different things, we have included more terms and info on our resources page.

Q: What does ‘non-binary’ cover for this group?

A: The Metro Vancouver Non-Binary Collective uses ‘non-binary’ as a catch-all umbrella label to describe people who identify as – or who think they might be – non-binary, genderqueer, gender non-conforming or something similar. You may be undefined or unsure, questioning, two-spirited, androgynous, gender-neutral or just not into these weird social constructs we call gender roles – but it all falls under our flag, and we take everything and everyone, regardless of how sure or well defined you are.

We do know the term non-binary does not work for everyone and we’re only beginning to scratch the surface, but we hope you’ll join us with the language and words you feel comfortable using.

Q: Can I attend even if I might not be non-binary?

A: Our group is incredibly welcoming to questioning and confused people. Non-binary identities can be incredibly difficult to figure out and we’ve all struggled to define what we are feeling or what we want to call ourselves. The rule of thumb we follow is that if you are wondering if you qualify, you probably do! It’s better to show up and ask questions than to stay home and just wonder.

Q: Can I attend even if I identify as ‘binary’?

A: If you are questioning your identity or coming to support someone, we welcome anyone who wants to attend. However, if you do not feel non-binary, aren’t coming to support a member or want to come just to meet non-binary people and ask questions, we ask you to please respect our space and not attend.

Likewise, MVNBC does not currently have events or support meetings set up for the support of partners, friends or family members of non-binary individuals, though you can contact us if you have questions or need information. 

In addition, if you are a professional who is looking for more information on non-binary identities or to speak with our group, please contact us as well.

Q: Can I bring a partner, parent or friend with me?

A: If you feel you need some additional support during a meeting or event, you can bring a friend, partner, family member or other support person. We just ask that these support people yield the floor to our non-binary participants and limit their questions or comments to allow the group to continue as usual.

Q: Do I have to register to attend meetings?

A: If you have seen one of our posters or found a notice for a meeting and would like to attend, you don’t need to contact us before showing up, but we do recommend it! We have a welcome packet with some information we can send out and if you need any accommodations, we can organize that ahead of time.

Q: Do I have to be a certain age to attend?

A: There is no hardcore age limit or threshold on any of our groups, however most of our members consist of adults and topics that get brought up are often mature or difficult subjects. These meetings may not be suited for young teenagers or preteens, and we ask that you leave your young children at home.

If you’ve got a young family member who may or does identify as non-binary or gender non-conforming, you can contact us to chat or get more information. If there’s enough interest, we may start a youth group!

Q: Are events & meetings free?

A: All of our regular support meetings have no costs associated with them; you do not need to pay membership fees or for food, and free parking is available onsite or close by. On occasion, our group may hold social meet-ups at different venues – these may have some small costs associated with them, such as buying a drink at a cafe or bringing a dish to a potluck – but if that’s the case, we’ll let you know ahead of time.

Website Related Questions

Q: How do I register an account on this website?

A: While you can comment on our blog posts without an account, some people like to have all their details saved. Our website allows you to register an account and you can find the link either on the login page or here. The form will ask for a username and email address – after filling it out, you’ll receive a link in your email inbox with a link to create a password. After that, you’ll be directed to your profile editing page, where you can fill out your additional details.

Please note; you cannot change your username after registering, though you can change your display name.

Q: How do I login to my account on this website?

A: If you have registered an account for our website before but have now been logged out, you can find the login link on our homepage, at the top of all comment sections on blog posts, in the sidebar (which may be located at the bottom of the page if you are on a mobile device) and here.

Q: How do I change my avatar on this website?

A: All avatars (or ‘profile pictures’) are selected based upon the first letter or character of the name you’ve chosen to display and cannot be changed without changing your display name. If you don’t like the picture you’ve got, you can add things to the beginning of your display name to change the picture. Some ideas involve; adding a title such as Mx. before your name, adding a word like ‘Fantastic’ before your name, adding a number or even a symbol such as ‘*’ or ‘!’. Please note that the system draws from the very first letter of your display name, so “Mx. Alex” will get you the same avatar as all the names beginning with “M”.

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